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Is Freedom a Joy or Burden? Unpacking Perspectives

With the Fourth of July quickly approaching, and as our nation celebrates 250 years of history, there is much that can be said about both the good and the bad of our country.

The lens through which we view our nation often depends on who we are, where we grew up, where we live now, and whether we have served in our military. If you have served, thank you.

Turn on the news or scroll through social media and you will find a wide range of opinions. Some people love this country, while others believe it needs dramatic change. Regardless of where we stand politically, it is worth taking a moment to appreciate the freedoms we enjoy and the opportunities we have been given.

For one day, can we set aside our differences and acknowledge that we are blessed to live in a nation where we can worship freely, speak openly, and pursue the lives we believe God has called us to live?

More importantly, can we look beyond politics and remember how Jesus treated people?

Today, it often feels like disagreements quickly become divisions. Instead of seeking understanding, people choose hostility. Relationships are damaged, families become divided, and friendships are lost. 

As followers of Christ, we should recognize that there is often a deeper spiritual battle taking place beneath the political conversations of our day and the story of Esther reminds us of this reality.

In the Old Testament, Esther found herself in the middle of a crisis that threatened the very existence of her people. She could have remained silent and protected herself, or she could risk everything to stand for what was right. Through God’s providence, she was placed in a position where her obedience would help change the course of history. If you are unfamiliar with the story, take some time to read Esther chapter 4 and the chapters that follow.

For today, I want to bring the question a little closer to home.

Who are you?

Where are you?

Why are you here?

I believe God has allowed you to be exactly where you are for a reason, and that reason goes far beyond your political opinions.

You were created by God to live a life that honors Him. As Paul writes in Ephesians 4:1, we are to “live a life worthy of the calling you have received.” In Romans 12:1-2, he challenges us to offer ourselves as living sacrifices, to be holy and to be transformed by God’s way of thinking rather than the world’s.

That is easy to read and much harder to live.

So what do we do?

Many of us have been taught to pursue success with relentless determination. Work harder. Push farther. Make a bigger impact. Be noticed.

Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn’t.

But regardless of our accomplishments, our greatest purpose is not found in status, influence, or recognition. It is found in faithfully living the life God has entrusted to us.

Most of our lives are not spent in political arenas or on public stages. They are spent in everyday places. in our homes, at our jobs, in our communities, and In our churches.

Those places matter.

So let me ask a few questions:

Who are you in your family?

Who are you at work?

Who are you in your community?

Who are you in your church?

God has taken the lump of clay that is your life and shaped it with your gifts, passions, abilities, experiences, and dreams. He has made you uniquely for His purposes.

I wrestle with this personally.

Much of my life has been spent in leadership roles. I lead my family. I lead businesses. I have led within the church. Leadership has become part of how I see myself.

If I’m honest, I like being influential. I like feeling useful. I like knowing that what I do matters. But what happens when you’re no longer the leader?

What happens when your opinion isn’t sought out?

What happens when your influence fades because of retirement, health, circumstance, or simply a new season of life?

Have you ever been there?

I think many of us have.

And that brings us to the question of the week:

What kind of clay pot are you?

Are you the decorative vase displayed in the center of the room, or are you the common container tucked away where few people notice it? Does it matter?

Romans 9:21 says:

“Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for noble purposes and some for common use?”

The truth is that we often prefer being the decorative vase. We like being seen, appreciated, and recognized.

But God is not measuring our value by our visibility.

Whether you are leading from the front or serving quietly in the background, your worth comes from the One who made you.

The Potter does not make mistakes.

You are exactly who God created you to be, if you are willing to step into it and realize that He has placed you exactly where He wants you for this season.

So be faithful.

Serve well.

Love deeply.

Honor God.

Whether you are out front or behind the scenes, you matter because He says you matter.

And that is a freedom worth celebrating.

Looking forward to our conversation Wednesday.

– Bryan

IT’S A GROUP THING

Some of the best times I can remember involve a group. Whether it’s a small group of three or four, like my family, or a larger group of fourteen to sixteen, some of life’s greatest moments happen when we’re together.

For me, a small group we started many years ago sparked something inside of me that has lasted my entire life: there is a greater chance to grow and live a life that is pleasing to God if I am not alone.

The most impactful group I was ever a part of started about the same time Rick Warren released The Purpose Driven Life. One day Lori, a friend of ours, came up to me and said the church wanted to start small groups. She didn’t ask as much as she told me.

“We think it would be a good idea to have a group, you’re going to lead it, and we’re having it at your house.”

Wow. Okay. Sounds like fun. I’m in.

That’s really how the best group I’ve ever been a part of got started.

The group eventually grew to seven couples who spent the next several years getting to know each other on a deeper level than some families ever do. Every Sunday night we gathered at our house for a couple of hours and shared life together. Sometimes we vacationed together.

One time we even rented a cabin in the mountains for a weekend. It was a great opportunity to get away, relax, and enjoy each other’s company.

But those relationships weren’t built on the good times alone.

We also walked through real life together.

One couple had a child go to jail because of some poor life choices. Another set of parents walked with their daughter through a divorce. Several members faced serious health challenges, including cancer and another member eventually a heart transplant.

Sure, we had conversations about rough days and difficult family situations. But the real glue that held us together was learning more about God and His love for us. Because of that foundation, we not only deepened our relationship with God, but we also grew closer to one another as we grew closer to Him.

In past posts I’ve talked about mentoring. Most of those conversations focused on one-on-one relationships, but at the same time I’ve seen more growth—and more sustained growth—come from being part of a group.

Reggie Campbell said:

“Jesus, the world’s greatest mentor, worked with a group. That’s right, a group. All my life, I thought of mentoring only as an individual thing… one-on-one, life-on-life. But Jesus started… and ended… with a group.”

I’ve also taught several groups with the intention of helping people uncover more about why God created them the way He did. The goal was to help people discover the “why behind the what” of their lives—their personal ethos.

You may be asking:

Why did God create me?

Why did God allow me to experience the things I have experienced?

Whether you view your past as good or bad, God uses those experiences to shape who you are.

At the end of the nine months we spent together, the goal was for every person to answer this question:

God created me for the purpose of ____________.

Can you answer that?

And is your answer more than, “God created me to worship Him?” That’s true, but He created all of us for that.

Or, “God created me to love God and love others?” That’s also true, but that’s the calling of every believer.

But why did God create you?

With your past.

Your family.

Your gifts.

Why were you born when you were born, where you were born, and into the family you were born into?

My point is this:

You were created by a God who loves you and never intended for you to live life alone.

He wants you to learn, live, and teach others about His love and His way of life. Part of that journey is helping someone else along the way. In my experience, you’ll do that best in a group.

Who are you mentoring?

What group are you a part of?

What are you learning because of it?

Looking forward to seeing you Wednesday morning!!

— Bryan

Finding Purpose in Helping Others on Your Faith Journey

One of the easiest traps in life is believing everything is about us. Our goals, our success, our growth, our problems. But the longer I follow Jesus, the more I realize that growth isn’t just about what God is doing for me or in me—it’s also about what He wants to do through me.

When we think about others, well maybe we should start with the question, do you think about others?

I hope the answer is yes, and I hope you didn’t have to think to hard about it. 

Who? Is there someone that comes to mind when you ask yourself who is important to you? Other than your close family who is important to you? When I sit and think about it I can come up with a few friends and a few people that are like minded with my likes and beliefs. But, beyond that I want you to think about who you are helping. Who is younger than you or walking through a season of life you’ve already experienced?

Is there someone you are around that is in business and at a place where you have already been? Is there someone you rub shoulders with that is in a different place in their spiritual journey than you are? Or how about your favorite hobbies, who is learning to enjoy what you already enjoy?

If we are willing to look, there are people all around us that are ready to learn what we have to offer. 

When I am operating at my best, there are two things I love to do. I love to learn and I love to teach. 

No matter what I’m doing, I always come back to those two things.

Years ago, I was really into aviation, both hot air balloons and airplanes. As I learned to fly hot air balloons, I spent years studying regulations, weather, safety, and flight techniques. Eventually there came a tipping point where I wasn’t just learning anymore—I was enjoying it. And then I started looking around for others who wanted to learn what I had learned.

This tipping point allowed me to start looking at who was around me and who seemed to have a desire to learn more about the sport. This is when sharing what you’ve learned, experienced, and enjoyed becomes valuable to others. By this point, you have gained the wisdom that comes from both learning and experience. Learning that things can go right and things can go wrong. I can tell you from personal experience that you tend to learn a whole lot faster when things are going….we’ll let’s call it not going right. 

That experience taught me something important about following Jesus. Spiritual growth isn’t meant to stop with us. Just like aviation, there comes a point where we move from simply learning to helping others learn.

In our lives when we are following Jesus we will have a time of learning in the beginning. But as we encounter God in a personal way we will start to bubble over from the inside out. When we understand the impact of what God has done for us we have no choice but to tell others. Even if at first all you think you’re doing is telling others what God has done for you or what God has changed in you. It is a real thing. Early in our relationship with God we should keep an eye out for who is paying attention. 

That is an invitation to help others see God in a deeper and more personal way. You have a story that needs to be told. Don’t get bogged down by the idea that not everyone wants what you have. That’s a real bummer, but it’s okay. Look for someone you can understand and help. That’s what encouraging or mentoring is all about. It really is that simple!

For now, let’s look for someone that we can be real with and wants to be real with us too, That’s mentoring. Regi Campbell says  “Authentic mentoring, mentoring like Jesus did it, involves selflessness. It says, “I’m going to give to you . . . put you first . . . let you learn from my mistakes and get nothing in return.” In a sense the mentor says, “I’ve paid the price (via my mistakes) to learn what I’ve learned. I’m going to give you the benefit of that price so you won’t have to pay it.” Sounds a little like Jesus’ sacrifice for us, doesn’t it?” 

Following Jesus was never meant to stop with us. 

At some point, faith becomes less about what God is doing for me and more about how He wants to work through me for the benefit of others. That’s when we discover that it really isn’t about me.

This week, don’t just think about these questions. Put a name next to them. Ask God to show you one person you can encourage, teach, mentor, or simply walk alongside. You don’t need all the answers. You just need to be willing to share what God has already taught you.

Who is in your circle of influence?

Who needs help?

What do you have to offer? (Remember, you have a story and it’s important to God. And God wants you to share your experiences)

How does this deepen your faith?

How does this encourage you to learn even more than you know right now?

Looking forward to chatting more about this when we see each other on Wednesday.

Have a great day!!

Bryan

Making an Impact: Beyond Achievement and Status

What are we supposed to do with our lives?
That is a question that has pestered men and women for thousands of years.
If you really sit down and think about it the answer should be simple but it’s not.

How we answer the question of purpose shapes how we live. When life becomes only about achievement, status, or control, it often leaves us exhausted, disappointed, and competing with others instead of loving them. If life isn’t just survival and self-interest, then we have to ask who gets to define our purpose?

If you look at life from a totally human perspective, then the answer is quite easy. Conquer and control everything—relationships, business, culture, even the world. That becomes a survival-of-the-fittest mentality. That mindset can leave us exhausted and discouraged because eventually we realize we aren’t the strongest, smartest, most successful, or most admired. Too often, we take that frustration out on ourselves and those around us.
What if there’s another way? What if there’s something deeper than just our own primal desires? Often, we don’t take time to sit down, reflect, and ask what we’re really supposed to be doing.

Because this is just a blog and not a book, let me share with you a different perspective. What I’m talking about is a perspective looking through the lens of God, a creator, the creator of you, the creator of me the creator of everything that we deal with and live with. God the Father didn’t just give us rules to follow—He gave us Jesus to show us what life with Him looks like. Jesus spent a little over 30 years of his life showing us that there’s more to life than just our primal instincts. He shows us a roadmap of life. First, He shows us how to spend eternity in heaven with God versus an eternity without God. Second, He gives us a picture of how life on earth can be lived with purpose, fulfillment, and obedience to God.

The Bible is filled with history and insight when it comes to the life of Jesus. One of the clearest things we see—especially in the final three years of His ministry—is that Jesus invested in people. He mentored. He handpicked 12 ordinary guys—and honestly, if I had been choosing, I probably would’ve picked differently. Yet Jesus changed the world through ordinary people.

I meet with a group of guys early every Wednesday morning at a restaurant around a cup of coffee, a Diet Coke, and even a breakfast sandwich and I want to spend the summer talking about how we invest in the people God has placed directly in our lives.

In the Bible, the book of Matthew chapter 28, as Jesus’ time here in his earthly form was coming to an end he gave us disciples a charge. Jesus didn’t tell us to collect followers, gain influence, or simply live comfortably. He told us to make disciples

So what does this have to do with what we are supposed to do with our lives?
First, as Christ followers, we are called to tell others who Jesus is and what He’s about. Discipleship isn’t just something pastors do—it’s the normal Christian life.
Secondly, we are to live with purpose. That’s what I want to touch on today.

The real question isn’t how we make an impact in our culture and among those around us—it’s how we make the right impact. We will make an impact whether it’s negative or one that is positive. So how do we make the right impact?

Author Regi Campbell wrote “Jesus is one of the most admired figures in all of human history. A majority of Americans admire Jesus, whether they believe that He was God’s Son or not. Almost no one will say anything bad about Jesus. Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists. Everyone thinks well of Jesus. Why?… He lived a somewhat normal life as a child and then became a significant historical and religious figure in the last three years of His life.”

As we go through this summer, I want us to discover that influence isn’t measured by how many people know us—it’s measured by how faithfully we invest in those God has placed around us. I want to highlight 11 things that will impact us not just in our lives, but in our influence as we mentor those around us.

So the questions for this week, then are these…
Who has God already placed in your path?
Do you feel the desire to mentor anyone?
How do you pick someone to mentor?
Are you paying attention for anyone around you that needs mentoring?

I’m looking forward to our discussion Wednesday.

Have a great day!
Bryan

Aligning Heart and Mind with God’s Commands

Jesus sits on a hillside in Matthew 5 and begins speaking to what I imagine are a few thousand people. He starts with what we call the Beatitudes: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” And it continues from there.

In the next part of His message, Jesus talks about our Christian life and being salt and light.

Last week we talked about being salt and light to those around us. We need to add value to the people around us. But just as important as adding value is paying attention to how we add that value. Too much salt or too little salt can ruin a meal.

In the next portion of the passage, Jesus begins to break down the deeper meaning behind the blessings He mentioned earlier. He is speaking to people who are very familiar with the Jewish customs and laws God had given them over the previous 2,000 years. And this is where things probably started to feel strange to the crowd. Jesus takes the laws they already know and brings them to the next level. Not by adding more rules, but by moving beyond the outward actions and getting to the heart behind the law.

Take a look at this “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.”
— Matthew 5:17–20 NIV

By doing this, Jesus begins leading people down a path that not only brings them closer to God, but also disrupts the status quo the religious leaders had become comfortable with. I won’t go too far down that rabbit hole today, but it should make us stop and think about our own lives and leadership.

When we follow Jesus, He wants us to use our minds to understand and follow God’s commands, but He also wants our hearts to fully align with them.

For example, the law says not to murder. Jesus takes it deeper and says that even if we haven’t committed the physical act, hatred toward someone can still become sin within our hearts.

Wow. That’s an entirely different level.

Jesus wasn’t lowering the standard. He was revealing the true standard all along.

Another example is the commandment that says we are to have no other gods before the one true God. In ancient times, that often meant physical idols carved from wood, stone, or metal.

But after Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 5, we begin to realize an idol can be anything that gets in the way of our relationship with God.

Work can become an idol.
Money can become an idol.
Pride can become an idol.

Even good things can become idols when they take God’s place in our hearts. Jesus continually points us past outward appearances and into inward transformation.

That’s what makes His teaching both challenging and freeing at the same time. It’s challenging because Jesus cares about more than behavior—He cares about our motives, attitudes, and hearts.

But it’s also freeing because following Jesus is not about pretending to look righteous on the outside while falling apart on the inside. He wants to transform us from the inside out.

A question to ponder today:

As you follow Jesus in your daily life, are there areas where you follow the rules to the letter of the law, but your heart and mind are not fully aligned with God?

Are there places where outward obedience has replaced inward surrender?

Most of the time, this shows up not in whether we are breaking laws, but in how we treat people.

How we speak.
How we forgive.
How we love.
How we respond when we are hurt.

Just something to think about…

Is there such a thing as too much salt?

I love to cook. The two things that I love to cook most are eggs for breakfast and BBQ. Come to think about it, that’s all one really needs in life. A good breakfast and a whole lot of BBQ. Well, maybe coffee, we definitely  need coffee as well. A good cup of black coffee or a latte does set off the perfect breakfast. I have a sign hanging on the wall in my coffee room that says “All I need is a little bit of coffee and a whole lot of Jesus” How true is that!

Whether or not you love to cook, everyone loves to eat. Think about a time when you sat down and had the perfect meal. Now answer these questions. Were you alone, with someone or with a group? Were you inside or outside in a perfect setting? What time of day was it what was the lighting like? Now that you’re there, what did you have to eat?

When we have a great meal, the eggs are just right and the bacon is the perfect crispness or maybe the brisket has the perfect smoke ring and the texture of the bark is perfectly pliable and it is has been kissed by smoke for over 12 hours. If you’re not drooling just a bit I think there may be something wrong with you at this point.

Now think about the worst meal you have ever had. Was it the atmosphere, the company, or was it in fact the food?

When I think back to some of my worst meals. It’s easier to think about the ones that I’ve cooked then the ones I’ve had eating out. They usually get off track by the seasonings. I can’t tell you how many dishes have been ruined by bad seasonings. If a dish is not seasoned enough, that’s a pretty easy fix. You can add some salt pepper or whatever you like, but if a dish is too salty, you can wreck the flavor and the evening in an instant. There are very very few ways to come back from a dish that’s too salty.

The same goes for our relationships and our lives. take a look at this passage out of Matthew chapter 5.

“You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭13‬-‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Have you ever wondered why Jesus wrote this? This passage is taken out of what’s called the sermon on the mount. It’s probably one of the most famous messages that Jesus gave and it’s chock full with important things we need live a productive daily life, and a productive Christian life. Because of the society that we live in and the culture that we are apart of, if you are a Christ follower, we will want to pay attention to what this small section of Jesus’ message teaches us.

I’m sure you’re aware of todays political climate (if you’re not then you’ve been living in a cave or under a rock) but you know that there is no shortage of opinions, facts, noise, and passion to just about any topic you want to bring up.

The question for the day is…….

If you are a Christ follower, what do you do with the information you have and where you live? Especially when just about any conversation you have is seasoned with political policy or opinion in one way or another. I need you to stay with me now. I am not talking about any policy or any opinion you may have no matter where you stand. I want to warn you, no encourage you, that in any relationship or conversation you have today or in the next month. The most important thing you have to watch for is the seasoning. The seasoning of Jesus in your attitude, opinion, and what you say to others.

I’ve talked a lot about salt but we are also light. When you think about light there are a couple of things to know. First, there is no such thing as dark. Dark does not exist. It is only the absence of light. You cannot add more dark to make a room darker but instead you take the light away. Think back to the great meal you had or a great conversation you had with a friend. Whether you realized it or not, light had a lot to do with it. If the light is right, say a candle lit romantic dinner then the mood is set. Sometimes a bright arena is brightly lit so the perfect pass can be seen and is caught for a touchdown. Lighting is very important. When you’re having a conversation or an important business deal you need to see the facial reactions to the one you are talking to. If it’s to dark you are left searching for what their reaction is and if you are talking to someone and there is a laser pointer in your eyes you are so distracted that the words of the conversation no longer matter. Right?

You know where I’m going here. The same goes for the light of your relationship with Jesus. If you’re too dim, the conversation the passion, and the point can often get missed. However, if you are too bright like a laser pointer, it doesn’t matter what you have to say or what you are about, the encounter will be ruined. Jesus is the light of the world and it is your job to adjust the brightness of your bulb in each relationship and conversation you are a part of. The bulb is not the light it is the carrier of the light. It’s not so people can see you but so they can see the light.

The same goes for food. Jesus is the salt of the world and you are the carrier. You may want to be the steak, the brisket, the soup, or the sauce. But really you are the chief of the flavor not the flavor itself. If you don’t have enough salt the conversation….oh excuse me, the soup will be bland and no one will want to listen to it or eat of it. The same is true if you come on too strong, the salt may be the perfect substance and there is nothing wrong with it but if you bring it on too strong it will ruin a dish and no one will care if your a great chef or not, you’ve lost a customer.

Be aware of your seasoning. Remember that you are only adding seasoning. Let it work for you and not against you. 

By the way, if your soup gets too salty you only have two choices. Throw it out or add a little sugar. That will counter act something that is too salty. Oh boy, you may have to be sweet to counter act your salty disposition. That sounds an awful lot like love……but that is for another time. 

The question for the day. 

Do you tend to be too bright and salty or too dim and bland when it comes to how others see Jesus in you?

Have a great day!

-Bryan

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What Do You Want? A Journey to Spiritual Growth

Often times as men, we move through life just fine. We have work to do, we have time to play, hunt, fish, and golf. But there are also times when we get to the end of whatever list we have made for ourselves or perhaps we just want to go off script and set the “To do” list aside.

It is times like these that we have trouble turning off the part of us that is the problem solver. As you may well know, men are very see a problem, solve the problem group of people. We are the type that when we are on the road and we put the destination into the gps and it says we are 4 hours and 36 minutes away, we don’t view that as just information but a challenge to be met and crushed at all costs. When we had small kids, my wife Joan and our kids Lauren and Jaron knew that it was a good idea to make sure you went to the bathroom and had water and snacks in the car. There were very few stops along the way because we had a challenge to beat. Who’s with me on this…

The same can be said for our spiritual lives. If you choose to follow the one true Christ, Jesus, you will find a new life that not only benefits you to a life forever with God but a new way to live that is not exactly natural. When we understand the free gift that God has given us we also can understand the relationship that also comes with it. As with any relationship we have, there are things that become our responsibility. When we care for our relationship with God we do so by giving it things like time, honor, dedication, and holiness.

There are several ways we can accomplish these things and today will only scratch the surface of what we could do.

For today let’s take a look at King David. One thing that has always stood out to me about David is that God calls him a man after his own heart. When we study David from his early days to fulfillment of his purpose, when he fell asleep (died), his life can be an encouragement, a warning, and even a roadmap to our destination. A life well lived.

The small piece of David’s life I want to look at is found in Psalm 51

1 Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love. Because of your great compassion, blot out the stain of my sins. 2 Wash me clean from my guilt. Purify me from my sin. 3 For I recognize my rebellion; it haunts me day and night. 4 Against you, and you alone, have I sinned; I have done what is evil in your sight. You will be proved right in what you say, and your judgment against me is just.

This part of the Psalm is attributed to David’s life after his affair with a married woman and the death of his son that came from it. David was a great warrior and a great king. And through all of this he still understands his relationship with God. That his relationship is not a one way street. David strives to do the will of God, he strives to follow God’s commandments and live a holy life. But he is also realistic of where he stands in life.

Later on in the psalm he says this

9 Don’t keep looking at my sins. Remove the stain of my guilt. 10 Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. 11 Do not banish me from your presence, and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and make me willing to obey you.

This is a good place to be. When we’ve made a mistake in life or even make an active choice to go against God. We don’t just quit, we don’t just throw our relationship away. No, we remember who God is and who we are. We ask for forgiveness and seek to stay in the relationship we love. David is willing to do the hard work and live a life of service. Striving to follow God’s commandments and live a holy life.

Here’s the real takeaway:

When we mess up spiritually, we don’t have to quit and walk away. We can return. We can repent. We can seek forgiveness and ask God to restore what sin damaged.

As men, we’re often taught (sometimes without realizing it) that we shouldn’t ask for much for ourselves. We think about providing. We think about helping. We think about what others need.

So let me ask you directly:

What do you want?

Not selfishly. Intentionally.

What do you need from God right now?

  • Do you need healing—physically or spiritually?
  • Do you need to change some habits and “man up” in the right way?
  • Are you stuck in a rut and tired of pretending it’s fine?
  • Do you need your heart softened again toward God?

If any of that describes you, you’re not alone.

Take a step. Don’t do life alone. Ask God to work in you—and let the men around you help carry the burden too. Because iron sharpens iron, and God wants you strong in the places you’ve been weak.

See you Wednesday.

-Bryan

Words Matter: Speaking Life or Destruction?

James 3 tells us this
“Dear brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers in the church, for we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.

3 We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. 4 And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. 5 In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches.

But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. 6 And among all the parts of the body, the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.

7 People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, 8 but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. 9 Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. 10 And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! 11 Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? 12 Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring.”

From pastors to politicians, we all have something to say, and the power of our words can resonate deeply within our communities and beyond. What are you saying? Are you offering up encouragement, uplifting those around you with positive messages and hope, or are you teaching something that is not encouraging or helpful? In a world that often feels divided, the impact of our communication becomes even more critical. It’s essential to reflect on whether our contributions foster understanding and compassion or if they inadvertently sow seeds of discord and negativity. As we express our thoughts, let’s strive to be voices of reason and empathy, ensuring that our messages promote healing and growth rather than division and despair.

James starts off talking about pastors but because we are all part of the church we need to be aware of who we are and what we are teaching each other.

In society today we seem to have more talkers than listeners. Maybe it’s always been this way but with the added “benefit????” Of social media everyone has a voice. You don’t even have to identify yourself, you can just click away anonymously and say anything you want. We have all been affected by it.

The challenge for you as a Christ follower and a man is how you will use the information you have. Our words matter. Will you uplift someone or bring them down? In today’s political climate, it’s easy to take extreme positions. We witnessed another attempt on the president’s life over the weekend. Many believe that the way people express their opinions influences this. I tend to agree.

As a man of God, you have a profound responsibility to tame your tongue. A couple of reasons to tame your tongue are; one, so you don’t diminish your voice. We all see those who seem to have the ability to speak before they think, often leading to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. When you engage in hasty speech, you risk undermining your credibility and creating barriers between you and others. You don’t listen to what they have to say, so why would anyone listen to what you have to say? Instead, take the time to listen before you speak, and measure your words carefully. By doing this, you cultivate an atmosphere of respect and understanding, allowing meaningful dialogue to flourish. Two, leave room for God to work. It’s easy for men to be problem solvers, yet not every situation you come across requires a solution from you. We have talked before about the difference between a problem to solve and a tension to manage. Sometimes, the most powerful action is to step back and allow divine intervention; after all, does every challenge truly need a human remedy? If so, does it have to be you? By practicing restraint and patience, you open the door for God’s wisdom to guide you and others toward resolutions that may exceed your own understanding.

So how do you tame your tongue? What do you do?

I would like to see what would happen if we started to say less. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you don’t speak up to things that are wrong, of course you do, but I want to encourage you to see if you speak less where God will speak for you.

Looking forward to our conversations!

-Bryan

Help me in my unbelief

In Mark 9 we read this

20 So they brought the boy. But when the evil spirit saw Jesus, it threw the child into a violent convulsion, and he fell to the ground, writhing and foaming at the mouth.

21 “How long has this been happening?” Jesus asked the boy’s father.

He replied, “Since he was a little boy. 22 The spirit often throws him into the fire or into water, trying to kill him. Have mercy on us and help us, if you can.”

23 “What do you mean, ‘If I can’?” Jesus asked. “Anything is possible if a person believes.”

24 The father instantly cried out, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

I have been thinking about this phrase that a desperate dad blurts out when Jesus tells him, if you believe it will happen……

All you have to do is believe

What I hear is alright, be a man, believe. But I do believe and I still have this problem.

I don’t know what your problem is but I know that a group of men I meet with on Wednesday mornings have problems. I don’t say this to call anyone out but to show the reality that no matter where we are we have problems. No matter where we have come from we have problems. No matter where we go tomorrow, we will have problems.

So my question for you today is this. When you come to the end of yourself, what are you going to do? Or what do you do now?

Do you man up and try to figure it out? Good

Do you man up and gut it out not letting anything get in your way? Good

But there is a time or will come a time when what you man up to do will not be enough. That’s my question for today.

What will it take to get past yourself and go to Jesus? If you read back in the chapter the disciples are arguing amongst themselves because they can’t get this demon to leave the boy. Jesus shows up and kicks out the demon and changes the life of this boy for the rest of his life. I wonder where he is now.

All of you are in one of two positions. You are either a disciple with a question because everything you’ve tried in your Christian faith doesn’t seem to produce the results you wanted.

Or, you are the father that can plainly see God at work in your life and there is a problem that you want to or have given to God but yet it doesn’t seem to change.

I invite you to talk to Jesus, give him the problem, listen like you have never listened before, (that includes prayer, fasting, reading your Bible, and listening/waiting)

It’s the praying, fasting, reading the Bible that is the easy part. It fits with who we are as men, action and results. It’s the waiting that we hate. Well at least I do.

I challenge you to this: Get better at the listening and waiting part. A part of this is in your manly relationships. First, if you don’t have a good manly friend get one (they need to be a Jesus follower). Second, as you spend time with God verbalize it with this friend, third, hang out with a group of godly guys.

Why do I say this? It will have the time go faster, it will help you sift out the bad ideas, and it will help you clarify what God is saying. As iron sharpens iron so one man sharpens another.

So, what’s your problem?

I look forward to seeing you all and talking with you because I know one thing. God is on the move and it is happing through you!

-Bryan